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I've been talking with some folks on another forum about the negative association that the term "bisexual" has for so many people, and what to do about it?
I myself see the term bisexual to reference the duality that it strives to
break apart - the notion of orientational duality or monosexuality, which
rides on the assumption that there are only two genders. In this way it is
like trying to undo the master's house with the master's tools.
On the other hand, it could be that the term seems less attractive because
it still carries so much stigma with it, especially for bisexual men, of
which I am one.
Bisexual is the only word with any cultural currency to describe my sexual
orientation in a way that most people can understand - for better or worse.
In this way I am rather attached to it. I wouldn't mind finding a new word
for it though!
Nevertheless, "orientational fluidity" doesn't really fly off the tongue,
now does it? Seems like more and more people shun labels altogether, and if that catches
on to the point of not having any boxes to check on government forms or
online dating services, I'm down with it.
I myself see the term bisexual to reference the duality that it strives to
break apart - the notion of orientational duality or monosexuality, which
rides on the assumption that there are only two genders. In this way it is
like trying to undo the master's house with the master's tools.
On the other hand, it could be that the term seems less attractive because
it still carries so much stigma with it, especially for bisexual men, of
which I am one.
Bisexual is the only word with any cultural currency to describe my sexual
orientation in a way that most people can understand - for better or worse.
In this way I am rather attached to it. I wouldn't mind finding a new word
for it though!
Nevertheless, "orientational fluidity" doesn't really fly off the tongue,
now does it? Seems like more and more people shun labels altogether, and if that catches
on to the point of not having any boxes to check on government forms or
online dating services, I'm down with it.
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Re: The Term Bisexual
07/09I like being the Bacon in the Bacon, Gouda, Lettuce and Tomato sandwich. :-)
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Re: The Term Bisexual
08/29"Bisexual is the only word with any cultural currency to describe my sexual
orientation in a way that most people can understand - for better or worse."
I can identify with this. I like to use the word "queer", but this is confusing and alienating for a lot of people, especially those who are not well-versed in the politics of labels.
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Re: The Term Bisexual
02/04Bisexual, as others have said is a word, it is also a symbol of identity. It is a way of acknowledging to myself that I am neither straight nor gay. I says to me that I appreciate and enjoy all people and all types of genitalia.
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08/23i am told the bad rap came in the seventies. as a woman i ahve a new stereotype to face, that i can't be satisfied with one gender.
i'm a slut,. i do it for the attention. it's a phase. i will break a true lesbian's heart.
my oreitnation doesn't roll of the toungue either.
straight identified bisexual.
i am married and choose not to date women be poly or swing. its too complicated for us.
needless to say if my husband and i divorced and i fell in love or lust with a woman, so be it. i'd prefer a lesbian identified bisexual or a woman like myself, no chance for huge biphobia or the mystery paranoia and fear that come from that.
i;m wearing my biphobia sheild.
i would /i have kiss a woman in public but not in front of (some) of my family.
they are not hateful towards gays just very traditional. its not my whole familys business what i do with someone in my owb bedroom any damned way.
my mom dad brother and sister all know and they never gave a hoot so i guess you could say i'm out and proud.
the way i look at ti is more in the middle, i don't have to be proud but ill be damend if anyone makes me ashamed. i am like this to support my 100 pervcent queer friends. they need my support and acceptance and so does everyone else. anyone can not-like what we choose to love but in the end its between me and who i love or between me and god so f*** 'em if they don't like it.
what i say to female homophobes,
"have i got the gay? yes i do, but NOT for you!"
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08/23Queer's good. Plus, it leaves the door open for future incarnations of sexual identity, which I think is in a constant state of flux.
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08/23"the term seems less attractive because it still carries so much stigma with it"
"Bisexual is the only word with any cultural currency to describe my sexual
orientation in a way that most people can understand - for better or worse."
I agree. I use the "bi" descriptive in some situations but I find that when I'm with gay and lesbian folks I tend to use the term "queer" because I feel it's a more accurate description of my sexual fluidity without the stigma that is often attached to the bi label.
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Re: The Term Bisexual
08/23well, Bisexuality indicates "both", or "2 simultaniously" which is often not the case. I have gay moments, straight moments, and occasionally both at the same time.
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08/24"Perhaps Ambesextrious, as in "either/or" would be better. Sexually indifferent? Just plain greedy?"
Heehee...I love the word "Ambisextrious"!!!
Just plain greedy? Maybe. Sexually indifferent? Nope - definitely not indifferent about sex...
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08/24Yeah I think I should finally get around to printing up that T-shirt on CafePress:
"I'm bisexual and polyamorous, but I DON'T like YOU!"
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08/24I too have straight moments, Bi moments and gay moments.
I enjoy oral...period.
when your with someone, you'll know right away if they are oral or not.
in a sense to me defines, a good lay or a bad lay.
maybe as a youth I was looking for that good oral and didn't find it until I met a guy?
what about you women? If youmeet a guy who is gorgeous, wealthy and hung.
what if he can't satisfy you orally.....is he a keeper?
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08/25One must always strive to get better at providing good oral. Seeking the zen of perfect oral, is a never-ending quest.
Ambisextrious works perfect for me.
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08/26"what about you women? If youmeet a guy who is gorgeous, wealthy and hung.
what if he can't satisfy you orally.....is he a keeper?"
For me, it has more to do with his ability to "tune in" and energetically connect with me. I find that when that happens, it become like the old song says..."skyrockets in flight".
I can usually tell if someone is "orally aware" by how they kiss - but oral awareness is just one piece of the whole puzzle and without chemistry and emotional availability, no amount of technical know-how is gonna make someone a "keeper".
And BTW, gorgeous, wealthy and hung don't even appear on my list of must haves.
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